June 29th 2013 Update

So much for sleeping in today... I had a very anxious lil boy who was excited to get his toys back... I told him to go sleep for another hour then come back... Never tell your child to come back in an hour... For one he doesn't know how long an hour is, lol... Well I wasn't fully awake when I told him that... So every 5 minutes has an hour past yet? No! It hasn't. I ended up getting up & just adjusting to the light... So we got up made breakfast while listening to some positive encouraging music the fish. After breakfast I brought all his toys back & put them in his room... He beamed from ear to ear... I love seeing that! Finally I asked him "now what happens if you don't pick up your toys?" His reply "I lose them in your room & I get to very bored..." My reply "Exactly!!! So what are you going to do so that doesn't happen?" His reply "Oh mommy I am going to pick up my toys and not make a mess..." My reply "good, I am glad to hear that..." So we will see if he decides to test this again..

Avery has learned at an early age that some words have power. Mommy is learning to not react to everything he says. His counselor said to not put any energy into anything bad that he is saying... Well that isn't easy... So he was very disrespectful earlier & I about had it at that point so he got to stand in the corner for 5 minutes & his time started over if he said any words... So after about 15 minutes in the corner he was let out because he finally stopped saying anything. How can you just not have any emotions in what your child is saying if it's negative & disrespectful??? I think if he thinks he's big enough to talk like that & be disrespectful then he is big enough to have a consequence for his behavior... So after I let him get out, he came over told me he was sorry & that he loved me. I told him that when he say's negative things & acts disrespectful towards me he will stand in the corner for 5 minutes without talking. I also told him that the things he said wasn't very nice & that I am not going to accept that kind of behavior from him. I also let him know that I love him & that I forgive him. I refuse to let him grow up to be one of those spoiled rotten brats who run over everyone & everything & have no respect for anything... He will be a polite, respectful gentleman....

Okay I gotta brag on my Avery!!! He was in his room for a good 20 minutes & I heard all kinds of toys being taken out of his toy totes. So I went to investigate... Yep toys everywhere!!!! So I told him I was going to make lunch and that these toys all need to be picked by the time I'm done.... He said "Okay mommy!!!" So was making us a cold lunch & he comes out and says "Mommy!!!! Come check!!! Come see that I've picked up my toys!!!!" So I went and saw and he had everyone of them picked up!!! So I made a huge deal out of it... We did a lil dancing, high fived it,& then went to go eat our lunches... I am sooo proud of my Avery!!!!!!!!

So for the rest of the day, there was no more disrespectful words... He actually thought before he spoke... For me that was amazing, if a 4 3/4 year old can think before speaking then so can adults! He went outside to play for awhile with his sword, shield, and belt, lol.... Then later on he went back into his bedroom to play with some toys. About an hour later I checked to see what kind of mess there was. Note between the hour he kept coming out every so often to chat with me a bit and then went back to his room. So we had dinner and then we brushed our teeth. We had another race and Avery won again... He still winces at the sight of the toothpaste but he was a trooper and brushed his teeth anyway. So before he went to bed I asked him to go clean up the mess he made in his room, his reply "okay mom, I am!" He cleaned up his room and did a marvelous just I must say. I didn't have to tell him to pick up anything, it was already done! After that we did our prayers together and I tucked him into bed. The words that come to mind are inexpressible to voice. I feel like I am finally getting somewhere with Avery!!! That he is actually grasping what I ask him to do and thinking before he speaks, it's just amazing!!!! All the glory goes to God though, I am just a willing vessel carrying out what He has given me to do!!!! I love you Lord!!!!